Do you ever feel like you and your partner are stuck in the dullest of routines? Surprise your partner! You have your set roles and responsibilities, the same weekly schedule, and maybe even start to feel like affectionate roommates rather than excited lovers.

We get it – when you’ve been together for years, it’s easy to just coast along in familiar patterns versus consciously creating novelty and adventure together. But it doesn’t have to be this way!

With some creativity and playfulness, you can absolutely add some zest into your relationship and surprise your partner in ways that will make them feel cherished. Here are some ideas:

Plan Unexpected Date Nights

Don’t wait for an anniversary or birthday to plan an elaborate date. Make it a point to spontaneously romance your partner! Draw them a bath after a long day, cook their favorite meal, buy tickets to a show you know they’d love, and arrange a couples massage. The element of surprise is thrilling and the disruption of routine recharges your connection.

Leave Sweet Notes

Hide little love letters in surprising spots – their lunch bag, coat pocket, pillowcase, bathroom mirror. Handwritten notes expressing your feelings are a heartwarming disruption of an otherwise mundane day. Surprising them with written words of affection when they least expect it adds zest to any stale routine.

One woman we worked with started leaving her husband short emails recalling cherished memories from their relationship to find later. He saved and printed everyone!

Give Small Unexpected Gifts

Bring home little presents “just because” to show you were thinking about them when apart – their favorite candy bar or coffee drink, a book by their favorite author, a bottle of their go-to wine. Random gifts inject more thoughtfulness and romance into your regular routines.

One husband has flowers delivered to his wife’s office every month on a random day she won’t expect. She says it’s a total mood booster!

Try New Adventures

Seek out new experiences together to add novelty to your routines – take a cooking class, go on a kayaking tour, learn ballroom dancing, visit a flea market, or try an exotic new cuisine. Discovering new passions and interests together is exciting.

One adventurous couple aims to surprise their partner by doing one new activity in their city together each weekend. It adds vibrancy to their relationship by disrupting repetitive routines.

Flirt Like You Did Early On

Bring playfulness back into stale relating patterns by flirting like you did when you first met – tease each other, steal kisses in the kitchen, send cheeky texts, leave lipstick marks on the bathroom mirror. Playfulness breathes new life into monotonous routines and leaves your partner feeling desirable.

If your relationship routines have gone stale, our Light Your Spark program can help revive your connection. Visit  www.lightyoursparks.com to learn more!

 

The antidote to boredom and predictability in a relationship is simple – surprise and delight each other! With some creativity, you can interrupt tired routines and put the spark back into your partnership.