Do you miss those butterflies you used to get when your partner would look at you a certain way? Have you stopped putting effort into seducing and enticing each other?

It’s normal for flirtation and seduction to fall by the wayside when you’ve been together for years. You get comfortable in your routines and forget to stoke each other’s flames with playfulness and allure.

But you can absolutely rekindle that titillating energy of feeling irresistible and desired by your partner again. With some creativity and boldness, you can recapture the excitement of those early days when you obsessed over charming each other.

Here are some fun ways to revive flirtation and seduction in your relationship:

Flaunt Your Assets

Show off your sex appeal when you get ready in the morning – strut around in your underwear, do your hair and makeup with the bathroom door open. Entice your partner by letting them indulge in watching you. Leave the heels on when you crawl into bed.

Amp Up the Teasing

Bring back playful banter and innuendos – wink across the dinner table, graze their lower back as you pass by, whisper naughty thoughts in their ear, and text coy missives. Teasing builds erotic anticipation.

A woman we coached would send her husband GIFs with flirty innuendos throughout the workday to get him thinking about later. The build-up left him hungry for her.

Initiate Frisky Quickies

Don’t wait for bedtime – spontaneously initiate passion. Push them against the wall for an impromptu make-out, give a sly smile, and lead them to the laundry room, wake them by sliding under the covers. Unbridled lust is hot.

One pair trying to reconnect made an effort to sneak in kitchen counter quickies while the kids were at school. These thrilling risks made them feel like naughty teenagers again.

Roleplay and Dress Up

Indulge sexual fantasies through costume and roleplay. Or recreate a steamy scene from a movie. Playfully inhabiting different roles invites a thrilling sense of erotic escapism.

Schedule Sexy Getaways

Book a night at a swanky hotel away from daily distractions and responsibilities. Indulge in room service, Joint massages, and plush bathrobes. The luxurious environment sets the stage for lovemaking that feels illicit.

If you need help rediscovering desire and allure, our Light Your Spark program can lend a hand. Visit www.lightyoursparks.com for details.

With some playfulness and willingness to step outside your comfort zone, you can absolutely rediscover mutual admiration and lust. What has worked for you? Share your flirty tips and secrets with us!