Do you feel like you and your partner are stuck in a rut? Like your once fiery love has cooled to a lukewarm companionate affection? We know it can be scary to realize the passion has fizzled between you two.

But we have great news – you absolutely can heat things up again and rekindle that flame! With some playfulness, creativity, and intention, you can take your relationship from lackluster to lustful.

Here are some spicy tips to turn up the heat:

Flirt Like You Did When You First Met

Remember how you used to steal glances across the room, tease each other, leave flirty notes? Bring that lighthearted romantic energy back. Send cheeky texts, touch their lower back as you pass by, and surprise them by booking their favorite restaurant. Playful flirtation keeps the chemistry alive.

One woman we worked with started leaving her husband cute lipstick-kissed notes on the bathroom mirror before he showered. It put a smile on his face and made him feel desirable.

Indulge in Surprise Date Nights

Plan a sexy surprise date night to delight your partner – book a hotel suite, order champagne, draw a bath, light candles. Or show up unexpectedly to take them on an adventure – a concert, moonlit picnic on the beach, salsa dancing. The element of surprise brings excitement.

A man we coached secretly planned a weekend getaway to Napa, complete with couple’s massages and long soaks in a private jacuzzi. His wife was thrilled by this spontaneous romantic gesture.

Prioritize Physical Intimacy

Don’t let your physical connection fall by the wayside. Initiate romantic interludes, kiss passionately, send flirty sexts, cuddle in bed, and give sensual massages. Physical closeness leads to emotional closeness.

One couple aimed to reconnect physically by slow dancing in their living room after the kids went to bed each night. Swaying together often led to more intimate encounters.

Amp Up Your Sex Life

If you’ve fallen into a predictable sex routine, mix it up! Watch romantic movies together, experiment with sex toys, initiate frisky quickies, and talk about fantasies. Approaching intimacy with more creativity and playfulness will turn up the heat.

A pair we worked with planned monthly “Adventure Nights” where they’d check into a hotel and spend the evening trying something new and sexy. These steamy escapes kept their love life on fire.

If you need help turning up the heat, our Light Your Spark program can lend a hand. Visit www.lightyoursparks.com to learn more.

You deserve more than just a lukewarm, lackluster love – you deserve fiery passion! With some determination and creativity, you can absolutely bring back the sizzle and fall head over heels again. 

YOU CAN HAVE IT TOO!