Hey Lovebirds! Do you sometimes feel like the passion and excitement you once felt for your partner has fizzled? Like maybe you’re falling out of love or the relationship has gone stale? We get it – when you’ve been together for years, it’s normal for the infatuation stage to fade.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t rekindle that romantic spark and bring back the fluttery, head-over-heels feelings of new love! With some effort and intention, you can revive the romance, passion, and emotional connection in your long-term relationship.

Here are some tried and true ways to fall in love all over again:

Go Back to Basics

Think back to your early dating days – what did you use to do together? Long drives, stargazing, cooking meals side by side, dancing in your PJs, blowing bubbles on the lawn? Do those simple but meaningful activities again.

A couple we know started taking nightly walks like they did as college sweethearts. Chatting side by side with no distractions brought back romantic feelings.

Plan Surprise Dates

Surprise your partner with a spontaneous, well-planned date – make all the arrangements, pick them up, and sweep them off their feet. Do throwback dates that remind you both of milestone moments in your relationship.

One man we coached took his wife on a surprise reenactment of their first date at the Italian restaurant where they originally met. She was utterly charmed.

Exchange Thoughtful Love Notes

Hide sweet love notes in surprising places for your partner to find – their lunch bag, coat pocket, pillowcase. Expressing your feelings in writing has an endearing nostalgia to it. Heartfelt words rekindle emotional intimacy.

A woman we worked with started leaving her husband short emails recalling cherished memories from their relationship. He saved and printed everyone.

Give Unexpected Gifts

Surprise them with sweet gifts like flowers “just because”, handwritten poems recalling favorite moments together, and mixtapes of meaningful songs. Random thoughtful gifts keep the swooning alive.

One husband brings home his wife’s favorite coffee drink if he notices she’s had a stressful day. These simple gestures communicate love.

Recreate Special Moments

Plan anniversary dates at restaurants or locations that were significant early on. Wear outfits similar to what you wore on a magical memory. Drawing parallels to the past awakens magical moments!

Prioritize Couple Time

Carve out devoted couple time away from work, kids, and responsibilities. Really be present with each other. Recapture the thrill of stolen moments alone when you were first dating.

One pair we coached instituted a non-negotiable date night every Friday. Protecting that quality time revived the romance that had faded.

If you need some extra support rekindling romance, our Light Your Spark program can help. Visit www.lightyoursmarks.com  to learn more.

With consistent effort, you absolutely can fall back in love with your long-term partner all over again.